Abuja-based church has expelled a newly married woman, Oyiza, after she allegedly declined to consummate her union with her husband, Isaac.
The couple, who were living in Ibadan, Oyo State, were married on September 6, 2025, following the completion of their traditional rites in Okene, Kogi State, and a court wedding in Ibadan. Oyiza hails from Kogi State.
Soon after the wedding, the relationship reportedly became strained as the bride resisted her husband’s attempts at intimacy, maintaining that she did not love him. She was also said to have accused her mother of pressuring her into the marriage.
Family members and church leaders reportedly made several attempts to resolve the dispute, but these interventions were unsuccessful, with Oyiza allegedly standing her ground.
In a video shared on the church’s YouTube channel in February, the church’s International Director announced her expulsion after what he described as five months of unsuccessful mediation.
While making the declaration, the cleric labelled her a “demon” and said she must face consequences. Accusing her of engaging in spiritism, he called on members to pray for her “destruction,” claiming she had disgraced the church.
“So, we have delivered her to Satan. We have expelled, excommunicated her. You want to bring shame, what do you mean that you don’t love Isaac?” he queried.
He also referred to cultural traditions of earlier generations when brides, even if tearful, were compelled to join their husbands.
“Even the harlots, do they sleep with those that love them? It’s business. So, how do you say you don’t love Isaac after accepting him, and you say you don’t love? Demon!” he added.
Isaac recounted that Oyiza agreed when he informed her of his intention to marry her, prompting the church’s marriage committee to approve the wedding plans.
However, he said that months before the ceremony, she began expressing reservations, stating she had lost feelings for him and was no longer interested.
“(I) thought this could be spiritual and we should pray. The marriage committee also counselled her to go and pray. She returned and said she was convinced and that was how we proceeded,” he added.
According to him, the marriage was concluded after the traditional rites and court wedding.
Photos shared on Facebook from the ceremony showed Oyiza appearing cheerful among friends and church members. But Isaac said challenges surfaced almost immediately after the wedding.
“After the wedding, she started complaining again that she no longer had feelings for me. She had also started misbehaving, but because of the fervent love I had for her, I accommodated her deficiencies and lapses, thinking that things will change.
“After the marriage, in the hotel where we lodged, I touched her, but she said we should wait for a brief period of time. I asked for her reasons; she did not give me any cogent reason. She had also said she did not like sex all the time. I was also a virgin and was not involved in such things. I agreed we won’t make love in the hotel. So, we said when we get to Ibadan.
“We accompanied her, myself and her mother, to the park. She started crying at the park, saying, ‘Mummy, can you see now, when I said I don’t love this man, can you see it now. See the condition you pushed me into now’.”
Isaac said his in-laws appealed to him to remain patient and handle the matter discreetly.
When the disagreement continued, he said he first reported the issue to a church leader in Lokoja before escalating it to his pastor in Ibadan. He noted that despite counselling sessions, including one during which his wife reportedly wept, she remained firm in her stance.
“She would tell me almost every time, ‘No love, no joy, no peace,’” he stated, adding that he felt increasingly distressed because of his deep affection for her.
He further claimed that she accused him of attempted rape whenever he sought intimacy.
“It was a battle. Sometimes, she would just open up herself and say, ‘Do whatever you want to do.’ But I did not also know all these things.”
According to Isaac, church-arranged counselling, including guidance on sexual matters, did not resolve the impasse.
“It’s not just about sex. Even bathing. She said she loved me to bath at night. I bath virtually all night. But sometimes, if I don’t bath, she would hold my neck, telling me to go and bath. She would force me. Our leaders would intervene, asking her to release herself, but she refused.
“One day, she called some little children into our room to discourage me from touching her. But I ignored the children and continued touching her. A Muslim woman, who is our neighbour, saw us arguing as she was saying, ‘Do you want to rape me?’ She queried her for saying that. But she said, ‘No, I don’t love him. I have told him before. My mother forced me.”
He described the marriage as suffocating.
“If I came back from work, to sit on the dining table, she would say no. I was not even free until I bathed and changed my clothes. It was a struggle.
“In the kitchen, if she was cooking and I returned home tired, she would ask me to come and join her because I promised to assist her in the kitchen. Everything was like I was in a cage.”
Isaac maintained that he made repeated efforts to demonstrate love and affection but alleged that his wife did not respond in kind.
Oyiza was not present in church to address the allegations, and attempts to reach her for comment were unsuccessful.
Before announcing the expulsion, the church leader said his wife had received a revelation concerning Oyiza.
He claimed that his wife revealed Oyiza was “a marine girl who is married to a marine demon and they have children together.”
The cleric further stated that “this demon is a harsh type, highly jealous type that will never allow her marry another, and the covenant with the demon is that the day you allow a man enter into you, you will die, or that man will die.”
